More Than a Number: What It Means to Be Counted

Earlier this week, I was speaking to some Cheder students preparing for their bnei mitzvah ceremonies in the coming months. I asked them what they thought would change once they had completed the process. Their first response was that they would become adults in the Jewish world, which I had expected. I followed up by asking how that would change the way they behaved in the world. Then, one of them told me that they would now be counted as part of a minyan—the group of ten Jewish adults required for certain prayers and religious functions. I had expected one answer but was struck by the depth of another. My first instinct was to push further, encouraging them to think more about personal transformation, but I suddenly paused, realising the significance of what had just been said.

Being seen, being acknowledged, being counted as part of a group—these should never be taken for granted. The Jewish experience has long been one of seeking acceptance in the societies we have been part of while simultaneously retaining our status as the proverbial outsider. Becoming an insider is indeed something to celebrate and take pride in.

This week’s parashah, Ki Tissa, begins with God’s instruction to Moshe to count the people—one of several censuses taken as the Israelites journeyed through the desert. A midrash affirms that God’s repeated counting of the people is an expression of love: just as a king frequently plays with and counts his favourite gems, so too does God count the people of Israel multiple times.

A passage from Psalm 147 states that God is the one who “heals those with broken hearts and binds up their wounds; counts the number of stars and gives each one of them a name.”[2] I have always found these words profoundly beautiful, recognising that God operates on both a grand and intimate scale. Assigning numbers to the stars requires distance and perspective, while giving them names demands a deep, personal knowledge of each one. There is a common expression about not being able to “see the forest for the trees,” but Psalm 147 teaches that God sees both—attending to each tree individually while still perceiving the entire forest.

Returning to my students and their realisation about being counted in a minyan, may we all feel that we are full members of the Jewish community—counted in the overall numbers and truly seen in the fullness of who we are.

Shabbat Shalom!

[1] Ex. 30:12 

[2] Psalm 147:3-4